So... one of my old friends, with whom I'm facebook friends but don't otherwise really interact, is pregnant after having some difficulty getting pregnant. I'm happy for her, she wanted this really badly.
Today, she posted a status about having one of those fancy 3D and 4D (what does 4D even mean?) ultrasounds that all the kids are talking about. It was a cute status about being able to see her little girl's face and all that. D'aww. That's nice.
And then she said "I thank my husband for giving us this gift." ...Uh. Actually. You see, it takes two to make a baby, ya know? And actually, your body is doing and has done most of the work. True, you wouldn't have spontaneously created a baby without his sperm getting involved, I'll give you that; however, give yourself a little credit! Jeez, you're the one carrying it, nourishing it, gestating it. Your vagina fed enzymes to his sperm that allowed those sperm to make it to your uterus so that your egg could get fertilized.
Why on earth do we talk about fertility in this way? Why is this baby a gift from her husband? He should be thanking her, if anything.
Sorry, I just don't think we're going to get anywhere if we insist on devaluing women's bodies and women's work.
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